What should i do, not sure whats right?

Okay, my parents are divorced im 17 and 18 in a month, im also getting married. Me and my mom got in a fight about 3 years ago and i moved in with my dad ive always lived with my mom and she has custody and we discussed i was only tryin and seein if i liked living tgere. Well i moved in jan and decided i wanted to move back in july and my dad told me no and my mom didnt want me. Which i called my mom and she said he was lyin well i dropped it and asked again to move back and he told me no. We got in a huge fight about it and i tried walkin away to go to my room and he grabbed me by the arm and told me not to walk away he also left bruises i finally dropped it until april i talked to him and he told me no again. Well me and my mom planned for her to pick me up before he got home he found out and showed up and tge cops got called when the cops came in he was restrainin me by my wrist and had my step brother video tape it . The next day my mom checked me out of school and we had a cop esscort to get my stuff. Its been a year now and we hardly talk. My cousin had pics of her in a lot of my clothes that i dont have so i text my dad and asked if he gave them to her he got mad and told me i broke this family aoart and i did this to him, and he didnt deserve it. I told him to call me when he wasnt busy so we could get together he told me that wasnt his job and since i was the one that ruined everything it was my job. My dad hasnt once called me or text me since i left ive been the one tryin to keep in touch. My bf and my mom tell me to stop talkin to him since he makes me miserable everytime i talk to him im honestly thinkin about not even inviting him to the wedding. Did i mention he's a lieutenant for the sheriffs office? What should i do keep him in my life or not